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Apne Bachon Per Reham Kijiye! – Gul Nokhaiz Akhtar


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  1. Mra beta 4 years ka ho gaya hea but school ni jata bht rota hea samjh nj ati kia krn men

  2. True but v have to go wid vague system of education, and this is what we call competition. i really admier u for thought provoking article

  3. sher zaman khan

    sania maaam europe hmmm hm i think in jasa hona b ni chata aur ho ga b ni mana uk sy c.a kea h but jo sokon pakistan ma h wo kabhini mil sakta ji sakoon islam h europe wala to buht kuch karta h in k han to larka larki shadi sy phla rah b sakta h aur talaq b rak sakta h aur bacha b paida karta h ap kahoo ga k islam ma b ap logo ko ya ijaat di jaya but asa ho ni sakta na jana hmm kab badla ga hmmmri soch europe py hi katam hoti h aur shrooo hoti h hmmmmmmmmmm apni tahzeeb to bol gaya h na jana kea ho ga ya ejab jo hmm par ho raha h sub hamri waja sy h ya mara ustad kahta tha tb ma i.com ma tha aur gorment cooleg ma tha log bayhayi ko fasion ka name data h aur kahta h hmmm m modren h dnt mind plllllllllz think my talks because you are my sister

  4. bilkul sahi kaha

  5. Ye bat theeek hae k early education bojh mehsoos hoti hae magar naukhaez sahab latest educational research yahi kehti hae k 11 saaal se pehlae learning complete kar le jayae aur phir apptitude k mutabik taleem de jayae magar iss mulk mae bacha pehle languages seekhta rehta hae phir jitna hosakae kitaboun ka bojh daaalna zaruri samjha jata hae, jab tak taleemi nisaab aik jaesa na hoga tab tak na tau muqabla sahi hae aur na he taleem ka andaz, 11 saaal tak sab muashrae bachunki tarbiyat aur learning ka process complete kartae haen aur phir rujhaan k mutabik taleem daete haen, emandaari se koe batayae k status quo walae school sirf English language sikha rahae haen aur tarbiyat ghayeb, baaqi bachae kam se kam 4 languages seekhtae rehtae haen, Mother Language mae sochtae haen, uska urdu formation kartae haen aur phir english mae translate kartae hae, Arabic mazhab ke zarurat hae aur optional Languages bhi rastae maen parrri hoti haen Sindh mae tau Chinese sikhanae ka b mansoooba amal mae achuka hae, taleeem ka wazeeer jo khud sari umar BA nahi kia hota aur agar kar b laeta hae tau naqal k zaryae, wo bachunki qismat se khaelta hae, yahan ka nizam e taleem sab mil kar theeek kijyae jo sarae mulk mae aik jaesa ho, isss jagga ameer ghareeb aur rang o nasal ka fark khatam hoga tau tuwakau rakhaen k theeek hoga kuch warna maen aur aaap apni Apni aala Rayae deatae rahaen gae aur parents kabhi saaas ke kabhi susar ke sunaengae, isss Qoum mae muzakrae tau din raaat hotae he rahaen gae, ye sab log jo comment karahae haen kisi ka b bacha sarkari school maen parrhta hae?

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  7. muhammad arifeen

    Its society pressure on both parents, basically our society dynamics have significantly changed. due to that, parents are forced to keep up with society norms. They are forced to display expected behaviour, as a result nowadays we have witnessed breakdown of nuclear family system. Both parents must work together to bring in much needed valuable cash to fulfill so called society induced desires, as a result of above, our childrens are suffering.

    • muhammad arifeen aaj kl sirf daurr lagi hui hay,maine boht si aisee khwaateen dekhi hain jo k job nhi krteen lekin apne bacchon ko bhi nhi smbhaal skteen,khud kiun kren jb ye schools khol kr bethay hue hain,bs paisa phenko aur bacchon ko behtreen tarbiyat k naam pr utha kr dhkail do,phir chahe us bacche ka kuch bhi ho…. :/

  8. i 100% agree with this article…learning is a natural process and injecting & reforming child brain through injecting in commercial school system..can lead to negative consequences. When my kid was 1.5 years old, my wife and mother convinced me, to put my kid to preschool-playgroup in Roots Millennium school. Later out, i found in a 2 hour class, they are going to charge around around 17000 Rs registration fees & 6000 Rs per month for a 2 hours class….and u can easily understand, what they can teach a 1.5 year old kid, who event is not potty trained yet..later i found that my kid was the youngest to be admitted in school and school even didnt bothered to guide, to wait few more months before we admit our kid…pathetic…

  9. Montessori system koi fashion nahi balky ik pori research hai Jo Maria Montessori NY bachon PR ki hai agrr humary school main wo laws or wo system pori tarha apply hota to janab appko ye article likhny ki nobat na ati humara almiya ye hai k hum europen cultures ko pasand krty hain unko appnaty hai PR appni sharton k sat yahan school system Jo appny sirf or sirf sllybus ko follow krta hai is sub ka zemedar hai na k wo system jinsy europen country kahan sy Khan pohanch gy hai mery mutabiq appka ye article sirf ik tarfa ha main ik Montessori teacher hon but mujhy pory Karachi main aesa koi school nahi mila Jo pori tarha is system ko follow kry or apply kry or is system main na hi bag or course or nahi school supplies hai magr humary school system na sirf parents ko grab krny k liye material or attraction show krty hai or amli tor PR nil hoty hain in main maa baap ki bhi koi galti nahi its a complete school racket Maria Montessori(founder of Montessori system) said Teach the by directing not correcting …
    Jis system ko bachy ko sub kuch khel khel k parahaya jaye wahan result positive hai and Alhamdullilah mera beta buhat ache result deraha hai cause wo bhi ik Montessori teacher or ik achy Montessori school main hai Jo appny sari activity k bad bhi Kachi k bachon sy better behave mannered and talented hai

    • I think miss sania didn’t bother to read the whole article and couldn’t absorb the contents of it. You snatch their childhood by forcing them to do things against their nature. Good grades or well mannered children doesn’t guarantee success.
      Don’t kill their cuteness.

      • Sania ne apna mind set kr liya hay unko kuch bhi dekhne ya read krne ki zaroorat nhi hay 😀 bs Allah in bacchon pr rehm kre aur in k maa baap ko Aql e saleem ataa kre…

  10. Very well said….sharit ka b yai hukm hay k 5 yrs ka bacha taleem k kabil hota hay….psychology b yai kayti hay…mayra bayta 3 saal ka ho gaya apni toilet training maen ulja hua hay. ….maen 4 yrs say paylay school nai bayjoun gi. ..jahan vo kayl maen new activities learn krtay haen wahine aysi baatin b seek aatay haen jinko sudhrna mushkil ho jata hay…..maen b sb say yai request krun gi kydaaara kuda ki s kubsurat takhleeq ko enjoy krien. …oskay nany say zahn pr itna bouj na daalin k toray arsa bhad vo school ar kitabon say nafrt krnay lagay. ….apnay bachon ko apna wqt dain. ….choti omr maen competition maen par gay tu vo parents ko b khatir maen nain laaayn gay……In bachon maen depression lazmi hay

    • Sister wo appko zimadari hai k app appny bachon ko kya or kitni jaldi sekhati hai bachy aj kal k buhat talented or humsy kahin zayada zahiin hain main NY appny bety ko train 2 yaers main kya tha now he is 3.5 years onwards or wo bilkul train hai

  11. App sahi ka.rahi hai lakin mari nazdik ya sab sistam ki harabi hai jab sistam thik ho jai ga tu sab thik ho jai ga europe ma bi bachi 2 sal ki age main dachool jati hai lakin ak sistam hai stafy in playing

  12. Meri beti 2.5 years ki hai aur guzishta 1 saal se mere susar sahab ka israar hai k mein us ko school mein dal dun lekin mein ne aisa nahi kia aur na hi aage aisa karne ka erada hai. Is zaman mein mere husband bhi bahaut supportivr hain jo meri baat maan lete hain lekin mere susar ki yeh takleef nahi jati k un ki poti abhi tak school nahi gayi. Kyunkay un ki beti ne apni beti ko yani un ki nawasi ko school mein daal dia hai kyunkay woh khud job karti hai maar mein ne apne bachon k liye job bhi chor di hai. Mein itne chotay bachon k school jane k sakht khilaf hun

    • Good…..lekin apne bacchon ko buzurgon ka adab o ehtraam zaroor sikhaaen,muqaablay ki daurr main bacchon ka bachpan khraab na ho,,aur na hi unki acchi tarbiyat main koi kamee rakhain,Allah taala aapko himmat ataa frmaae k aap apne bacchon ko behtreen mnzil pr pohnchaaen….Aameen

  13. i think parents say ziada role hamaray education system ka ha agr 4 yr k bacha ko adm k liay lay k jain tou jawab milta ha k yeh tou ik sal late ha pre nursury maon jay ga.dont blame mothers plz.there is really a strong need to change edu sys n there should be same curriculum in all over country.
    sorry i disagree wid the columist.ap system ko blame karain na k mothers ko

    • You are absolutely right they are considered overage if not admitted at 3

    • totally agreed …system force parents to admit children in early ages!

      • Correct. I have been through this. My kid of 3 years was considered older than to be admitted at montessori. Principle said you are few months late so kindly admit it to the KG class. Though my son is unable to do anything in that class as it’s above his understanding and all… I’m feel so bad at times but to be a parent there are limitations of finances and also ee have to be careful choosing the school near to our house. This is our system and I’m also against it but have to live with it.

  14. Asal mn maaen Jan churati hen bachon se is lea frustration barh gae h zulm h bachon pe

  15. Masha Allah bht acha article likha hai. Ye montessori, prep ki classes ka bhi fashion ho gya hai or eska b aik status ho gaya hai. Aray yar ye tum ne apny bachy ko kon say ghatiya school mein laga diya hai o level karwao, city, bechon jesy mehnagy school ka naam suggest kiya jata hai…. Ye fashion nahi to or kya hai

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